Think about some of the most successful people you know. Now ask yourself:
Why are they so successful?
Naturally, a variety of factors play into their success, such as having a positive mindset. However, if you look at these successful people carefully, you’ll quickly discover that virtually all of them have one thing in common.
Namely, they’ve all developed good habits. And if you want to become successful, then you too must learn to replace your bad habits with good habits.
You’ve probably tried this before, either in your personal life or business.
Sometimes the good habits stick for a while, but you’ve no doubt noticed how easy it is to slip back into old habits. Of course when you slip back into old habits, nothing changes. You stagnate. You can’t move forward.
So let’s break the pattern, starting right now!
Let’s start by having you learn now to F.O.R.M. successful habits. Here’s my success system that you can start using to F.O.R.M. your own good habits:
F – FOCUS on one thing at a time.
O – OVERCOME challenges.
R – RECOGNIZE that quantity counts.
M – MAINTAIN for 21 days.
What do these four steps mean and how can they help you achieve your goals? Let me explain…
1. FOCUS on One Thing at a Time
Whenever you start to make big changes in your life, it’s easy to get overwhelmed.
Maybe in the first few days or weeks it works out, simply because you’re running on pure adrenaline. But after that, making too many changes at once overwhelms you, spreads your energies too thin or just plain burns you out.
So forget about trying to do everything at once. Instead, pick ONE good habit you’d like to adopt and focus on that one thing.
How to choose?
You might start with a habit you think will bring you the best results.
Example: If you are looking to start an online business, you might adopt the habit of getting up 90 minutes before everyone else in your household, just so that you have a quiet time to work.
2. OVERCOME Challenges
No matter what you’re doing, there’s no question that there are going to be obstacles. So, your job is to anticipate these challenges and obstacles so that you can make a plan for overcoming them.
So, your next task is to spend 15 or 20 minutes brainstorming all the possible challenges you’re likely to face as you adopt new habits. Then make a plan and take steps to reduce if not entirely avoid the impact of these challenges.
Here are four additional tips to keep in mind:
Remind yourself with a trigger. Let’s suppose that one of your personal obstacles is a tendency to get distracted and start doing other things.
You might use a positive trigger to remind yourself to stay focused, such as sending yourself an encouraging email the night before that you’ll see when you sit down to work in the morning. Or you might set a timer by your computer to remind yourself to stay on task.
Replace things you are changing. If you simply stop one bad behavior, you’ll notice (and miss) its absence. That’s why, whenever possible, you should find positive activities or things to replace the bad habit.
Example: Former smokers often take up a good habit – like walking – whenever they’re tempted to have a cigarette.
So let’s suppose you tend to mess around on Facebook for an hour every day talking to friends and playing Farmville. You don’t want to do this any more. So, you replace it with a new habit, such as spending that hour doing a task you really enjoy (it might even be related to Facebook, such as working on a social media campaign). That way you don’t miss the absence of your old habit, because you’re replacing it with a better habit or routine.
Remove temptations. Do you have a tendency to slip back into your old ways? Then remove the temptations.
Example: If playing video games is your weakness, then unplug your video console and remove it from sight when you’re working. That way, you won’t see the console and be tempted to “just play five minutes” instead of doing your work. (Because we all know that five minutes easily turns into two hours!)
Rely on accountability partners. You don’t have to do this alone. You shouldn’t do it alone. Most people find that they’re more productive if they have an accountability partner.
Here’s how it works…
You tell your partner your goals for the day, and then at the end of the day you tell your partner whether you achieved your goals or not. It’s psychologically uncomfortable to admit to someone else that you fooled around and didn’t get through your daily to-do list. And of course it’s even more uncomfortable to lie to your partner. That’s why having an accountability partner works so well – it’s easier to just do the work!
3. RECOGNIZE That Quantity Counts
Yes, of course quality matters. But sometimes you need to sacrifice initial quality just to produce quantity, to get some momentum going. That’s because you can always improve the form and substance later on.
Example: Take the example of the yearly novel-writing challenge located NaNoWriMo.org. That’s a site that encourages people to write 50,000 words of a novel in just one month. Are the participants creating perfect novels in one month? Of course not. But the challenge of producing quantity without worries about quality unlocks creativity and gives people the push they need to make something happen.
You can challenge yourself in the same way. Don’t look for perfection. Instead, focus on quantity. Build momentum. And watch how quickly you propel yourself towards your goals.
4. MAINTAIN for 21 Days
Experts say it takes about 21 days for an average habit to “stick.” And that’s why you should give 100% of your focus for a full 21 days to the new habit you’re forming.
You may start out feeling like you have to force yourself to do the task, but at the end of 21 days it will be much easier. And that’s because it truly will be a habit for you!
And there you have it – you now know how to F.O.R.M. a new habit, by:
FOCUSING on just one thing.
RECOGNIZING that quantity counts.
MAINTAINING the new habit for 21 days.
This system is so simple, but it really works. So give it a try.
Start with adopting ONE good habit today. Then focus on doing it every day for the next 21 days – I think you’ll be surprised by the results!
Success is NOT an Accident!
As a speaker, author or coach you know how critical speaking is to your income and impact.
Yet, when it comes to actually making money from the message most are failing. They might get a small keynote fee, but that’s about it.
Below are 4 of the 16 Ways to Make Money Speaking.
#1 Keynote Fees
As a beginner you should be charging at least $2500 per keynote. If you are an intermediate, then at least $5000. Even if you get 10 full fee events a year, you’re only talking about $25,000-$50,000. So you will either need to stay on the road to make money, or combine your keynotes with the following…
You can host these for events you speak and train for or for your own personal audience you build through email marketing. A buddy of mine charges $7,500 for three follow-up webinars after the event. it allows the buyer to take the information of the talk and apply it specifically to the organization.
#3 Product Sales
Your keynote should come in the form of an online course or even a physical product. At minimum you should sell the audio version and transcript of your keynote. Personally, I feel you should have a $97-$997 product for sale on your site. If you’re not sure how to create one, then click here.
#4 Affiliate Sales
Are you recommending related products for a commission? One of my products is Launch Your Year. It relates to my 5 Stones Achievement keynote. However, I also recommend products that have a similar personal development theme like Michael Hyatt’s Best Year Ever or Gary Ryan Blair’s 100 Day Challenge.
Those are just 4 of the 16 Ways to Monetize Your Message. Click here for the rest.
You’ve heard the typical advice for writing an article, right? It goes a little something like this…
Write an introduction that tells readers what they’re going to learn. Use the main article to deliver on the promises you made in the introduction. Create a conclusion that reminds people of what they just learned.
Sure, that works, but it’s pretty basic. And when you’re writing an article for a blog, you need to do a little more to keep people reading. So here’s my system for writing a great B.L.O.G. article:
- Begin With Benefits
- Lock Readers In
- Offer Examples
- Generate a Response
How does each step work? Take a look…
Step 1: Begin With Benefits
You need to start off on the right foot with a “blow their socks off” title. This is a title that presents a big benefit and/or arouses curiosity.
Here’s an example of beginning with benefits: “Here Are the Seven Secrets of Winning Your Next Marathon.”
Here’s another example that arouses curiosity: “Are You Making These Marathon Training Mistakes?”
The beginning of your article should continue promising benefits for those who keep reading. Obviously there needs to be a payoff, so make sure the body of your article delivers on the promises you made in the title and introduction.
Step 2: Lock Readers In
If you just write your article like a boring lecture, you’re going to have people clicking away faster than you can say, “But this is good information!”
So yes, obviously you need to provide good information for readers. But you also need to provide it in a way that keeps them hanging on your every word. In other words, “edutain” them – entertain them while you educate them.
Here are two tips for achieving this end:
- Connect emotionally with your readers. A good way to do this is to tell a personal story. Because once you hook your readers emotionally, they’ll feel more compelled to keep reading.
- Write in a conversational manner. Throw out any ideas of trying to write formally and in a stuffy manner. We’ll leave that to the college textbook authors. Instead, imagine you’re writing to a good friend. Write in a light, conversational manner. Don’t be afraid to toss in a little humor here and there.
Step 3: Offer Examples
Perhaps you’re offering step-by-step instructions for completing some process. To make your article even more useful, you should also toss in tips and examples. If you look back on this article, you’ll see I gave you two examples in the first step and two tips in the second. You should do the same sort of thing so that your readers walk away from your article with a good understanding of the material.
Step 4: Generate a Response
Once you hit your conclusion, you’ll probably do a quick recap of what the reader just learned in the article. That’s great. But you don’t want your reader to walk away without taking some specific action. So that’s why you should seek to generate a response such as:
- Taking action on what they just learned.
- Joining your mailing list.
- Clicking on a link at the end of the article.
- Learning more by reading related articles.
These tips work for blogs and for articles you send to your clients and customers. Use them to grow your brand and profits.
“The man on top of a mountain didn’t fall there.” Vince Lombardi
You climb Mount Everest.
There is no tram or train. It’s dangerous. Life threatening. Beyond difficult. Expensive mentally, physically and financially.
No one gets delivered to the top. You don’t fall there. You can’t sit on a throne and have your people carry you.
No one asks, “What’s the easiest way to the top?” There s no easy. No fast. No simple. You pray that conditions are good enough to prevent the winds from blowing you off the mountain.
It’s not unfair or unjust. It’s not fun and laughs. It’s risky and rough. It’s heartbreaking and brutal. It’s shocking and shattering.
What mountain are you climbing right now? Level of difficulty? Level of “want to quit”?
Keep climbing. One foot in front of the other. Search for solid ground. Support yourself with the terrain. Be careful, but keep moving.
You don’t fall to the top of the mountain. You climb.
That IT will hit.
The desire. The want. The push. Perhaps the shove.
Later calls to you. There’s still time. It doesn’t have to be done… yet.
The task will get done. At some point. When it has to. When it needs to.
Until then there’s the battle. The guilt. The twinge of recognition that discipline escapes you. You put things off. You stall to the last minute.
Maybe it will vanish.
Maybe another will step in.
Maybe the assignment will change.
Look at the clock. What’s the last possible minute? How much more time do you have? Do the math.
Who is waiting for your work? A co-worker? A friend? The masses?
Why the delay? It’s not fun? Fear? Lazy? Bored?
And just think. All this time thinking. Avoiding. Calculating. You could have been done.
Back in the 1900’s I owned a gym, a fitness center. People would come to work out. Most of them wanted to lose weight.
We would focus on the physical, what they needed to do. The mental, what they needed to think. T he nutritional, what they had to actually consume and what was needed to fuel themselves correctly. This was the area that most people just did wrong. They didn’t understand the personalities of proteins, fats and carbs. Especially fats and carbs. Once you master the lesson that I’m about to give you, you will never be the same again.
Here is the thing to remember.
Carbohydrates are extroverts.
Fats are introverts.
This is what makes it so hard, why it’s so difficult to lose weight and get rid of fat. Fat is introverted. They do not want to leave the house. Any pockets of fat that we have on ourselves, any of these extra rooms, these storage bins, that fat is like, “We are not leaving. We want to stay here. We like it. We are very comfortable.”
Carbohydrates on the other hand are like super excited. “Party, what? We’re going somewhere, what?” They love to burn themselves up. They’re excited,They’re hyperactive,They’re energetic.
Fats, however, are sluggish. “Let’s just lay on the couch. Let’s just watch TV. Let’s eat some Doritos, maybe we ought to dip them in something.” We begin to expand and fat just wants to stay there, it does not want to leave.
What we’ve got to do to lose weight effectively. (I’m trying to do this right now, it’s very difficult.) We have to convince fat, the introvert, that it needs to get out and party some. We’ve got to get it outside. That means that we’ve got to use up as many of the extrovert’s as possible so only the introvert’s are left and they have no choice but to join in.
I told you you would never be the same again. Now you finally, for the first time in your life, you actually understand carbs and fats. You’re welcome.
Success is NOT an Accident.
It’s the beginning of the new year!
Take your “before photo” right now.
No judgement. No bad feelings. No mental beat ups.
It begins by determining what you want to change and by how much.
If you want to get debt free, but you owe $62,000, then that’s your before photo.
If you want to lose twenty-five pounds and you weigh 214.2, then that’s your before photo.
Take the snap shot. Face the reality.
Now change the behavior.
What created the $62,000 in debt? How did you get to 214.2? Stop doing those things and start saying, “That was before.”
A friend points out a great deal on a new gadget. You shiver. The impulse rises. Your voice quakes, but you get it out, “That was before.”
You pass your favorite calorie splurge. You mouth waters. Your hands being to spin the steering wheel around in shock. You swallow and force out, “That was before.”
Finally, replace bad with good.
Every time you want to impulse spend say, “This is now,” and take the amount of that purchase and place it on debt.
Every time you want combo #3 extra large say, “This is now,” and run or walk a mile instead.
Take the before photo. Change the behavior. Replace bad with good.
“That was before. This is now.”
Success is NOT an Accident!
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“Self-discipline is the ability to make yourself do, what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.” Kop Kopmeyer
The number one reason we procrastinate, or put things off, or skip them altogether…
“I don’t feel like it.”
I don’t either.
Didn’t feel like getting up when I woke at 3:53 a.m.
Didn’t feel like doing some client work I’d put off from last night.
Didn’t feel like figuring out a way around an design issue.
Didn’t feel like getting dressed for the cold and heading to the gym for a workout.
But I did all those things. Not because I wanted too. Not because they “had” to get done. Not because I would disappoint someone. Nope. I did those things because I promised myself last night before falling asleep that I would do those things. Then I woke. Wrestled. Made myself do them.
If waiting until we “feel like it” becomes the prerequisite to action we’re doomed.
Here’s Kopmeyer’s statement in a formula…
1. Write down what you should be doing or what you are going to do.
2. Write down when you are going to do it.
3. Keep your word.
That last one is the most important. Almost nothing hurts us more than being lied to. We desire, even demand, honesty, so begin with you.
Stop lying to yourself by saying you will do it later.
Stop lying to yourself by believing that at some point you will feel like it.
Stop lying to yourself by thinking that delay won’t make a difference.
Stop lying to yourself by giving yourself an excuse to wait.
You become disciplined by keeping your word.
Success is NOT an Accident!
What would you write…
If your name never showed?
If you couldn’t be rated or reviewed?
If no one could comment?
What would you say…
If no one could respond?
If you didn’t fear rejection?
If you didn’t crave acceptance?
What would you do…
If money didn’t factor?
If time didn’t shackle?
If no one knew it was you?
Fear inhibits our writing, speaking, doing.
At times it should because there are things we shouldn’t write or say or do. But they are few.
There are other things, however, which need to be published, shouted and shared. But fear strangles. It breeds caution. It invents and imagines the reaction of the world. It whispers, “Amateur.” It slips into our minds, takes up residence, and consistently points out why it’s just better to stay quiet.
And then. With two small words, fear gives us hope. A way out. The right to remain silent.
Fear leans in, and right against our ear so we can feel it’s breath, it exhales, “For now.”
“Don’t write that… for now. You’ll be better one day. After years of writing in the dark you can step into the light.”
“Don’t say that… for now. You’re time will come when you have more credibility and more authority and more right to say something so bold.”
“Don’t do that… for now. Leadership is granted, not grabbed. Be content to follow until you are positioned by another.”
O fear. You’re so sly like that. Not killing the dream just telling us to wait. Assuring us that our patience will be rewarded. Hinting at the bright future.
Fear you liar you. You know we will always be insecure. We will always doubt. We will always feel we are not good enough.
Fear here’s where you messed up. You blew it.
You didn’t pay attention to the other voices.
The voices of encouragement. The ones who grew from the words we were scared to send out, but did anyway. The ones who thanked us after the knee knocking speech. The ones who shook our hands after taking a feeble stand.
Terrified, yet driven by passion, we released our imperfection and lives were touched. Support came to us in our weakness.
Our “time” may never come. And that’s ok. We won’t be content while we wait “for now.”
We will write… now.
We will speak… now
We will act… now.
Success is NOT an Accident!
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” ~Michael Jordan
Stop thinking you’re special in your fear of failing.
Everyone fears rejection.
Everyone fears embarrassment.
Everyone fears failure.
Everyone fears wasted effort.
Everyone fears “What if.”
You’re not alone in your fear. Not unique. Not a snowflake.
Fear paralyzes, creates doubt, and magnifies indecision.
Fear leverages the unknown and visualizes the worst case scenario.
Fears stops us from dreaming, and risking, and acting.
The wages of fear are regret and wonder and “what could have been?”
Perhaps there exist a few fearless souls. I’m not one of them. I stretch to tap into fear-less. Often I consider what I fear-more.
Maybe that will work for you as well…
- Fear-less the response of the critic and fear-more the unreached masses that would be changed by your writing.
- Fear-less the incomplete marathon and fear-more the physical condition you’ll be in if you don’t train.
- Fear-less the interview and fear-more the creditors pounding the phone with calls.
- Fear-less the dry throat and shaking voice and fear-more the message never shared with the audience.
- Fear-less the rejection of your love and fear-more the silent suffering of not knowing the answer.
- Fear-less the lack of support and fear-more the calling that you ignore.
We all fear. We all want to produce our art and receive rave reviews and complete acceptance.
Yet, we know that can’t happen. Mainly because we have all been someone’s fear. We haven’t raved about everything. We haven’t supported everyone. We haven’t five-starred every book, or movie. We haven’t encouraged every dream of a friend or family member. Maybe that gnaws at us just a little and prevents us from letting go. Maybe that’s part of the reason we find ourselves being fear-full, rather than fear-less.
Regardless, don’t let fear win. Just for today fear a little less the negatives and fear a little more the unattained positives.
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Here’s the thing. I like my ADHD. It’s not a disorder to me at all. However, it does make it difficult to focus at times.
Believe it or not, I use an energy drink to give me focus, while keeping my processing speed. (The reason I have never medicated is because my friends say their meds dull them and slow them down. I don’t want that.)
So what I use is Spark. I’ve tried every sort of focus product on the market and it works the best for me. It keeps my sarcasm sharp and my productivity high. Here are three more things it does for me…
#1 Fierce focused. All the the scattered thoughts I usually have go away and I’m like a laser.
#2 Zero zig and drop. Some performance drinks make you jittery and then you drop you like a brick and you become lulled and need a nap. Neither happen to me with Spark, but they have with other products I’ve tried.
#3 Scientifically solid. I don’t trust most supplement companies. I was in bodybuilding and powerlifting and even owned a gym at one time. Most of the manufacturers of supplements just squeak by the FDA. Spark is scientifically solid.
Spark is produced by Advocare, which is a direct marketing company.
I hear you! Those mean ol “pyramid schemes!” 😉
Second, if you decide you want to save 20% on every order you can become a “distributor” and get 3 boxes of Spark when you checkout. That’s what I did because I’m not just using Spark there are several other products I love.
There’s another advantage to becoming a distributor. You’ll be able to ask me questions about products, what I’m using, and if you decide to encourage others to give Spark or other supplements a try, I’ll help with that too.
Success is NOT an Accident!