How to F.O.R.M. Successful Habits

Think about some of the most successful people you know. Now ask yourself:

Why are they so successful?

Naturally, a variety of factors play into their success, such as having a positive mindset. However, if you look at these successful people carefully, you’ll quickly discover that virtually all of them have one thing in common.

Namely, they’ve all developed good habits. And if you want to become successful, then you too must learn to replace your bad habits with good habits.

You’ve probably tried this before, either in your personal life or business.

Sometimes the good habits stick for a while, but you’ve no doubt noticed how easy it is to slip back into old habits. Of course when you slip back into old habits, nothing changes. You stagnate. You can’t move forward.

So let’s break the pattern, starting right now!

Let’s start by having you learn now to F.O.R.M. successful habits. Here’s my success system that you can start using to F.O.R.M. your own good habits:

F – FOCUS on one thing at a time.

O – OVERCOME challenges.

R – RECOGNIZE that quantity counts.

M – MAINTAIN for 21 days.

What do these four steps mean and how can they help you achieve your goals? Let me explain…

1. FOCUS on One Thing at a Time

Whenever you start to make big changes in your life, it’s easy to get overwhelmed.

Maybe in the first few days or weeks it works out, simply because you’re running on pure adrenaline. But after that, making too many changes at once overwhelms you, spreads your energies too thin or just plain burns you out.

So forget about trying to do everything at once. Instead, pick ONE good habit you’d like to adopt and focus on that one thing.

How to choose?

You might start with a habit you think will bring you the best results.

Example: If you are looking to start an online business, you might adopt the habit of getting up 90 minutes before everyone else in your household, just so that you have a quiet time to work.

2. OVERCOME Challenges

No matter what you’re doing, there’s no question that there are going to be obstacles. So, your job is to anticipate these challenges and obstacles so that you can make a plan for overcoming them.

So, your next task is to spend 15 or 20 minutes brainstorming all the possible challenges you’re likely to face as you adopt new habits. Then make a plan and take steps to reduce if not entirely avoid the impact of these challenges.

Here are four additional tips to keep in mind:

Remind yourself with a trigger. Let’s suppose that one of your personal obstacles is a tendency to get distracted and start doing other things.

You might use a positive trigger to remind yourself to stay focused, such as sending yourself an encouraging email the night before that you’ll see when you sit down to work in the morning. Or you might set a timer by your computer to remind yourself to stay on task.

Replace things you are changing. If you simply stop one bad behavior, you’ll notice (and miss) its absence. That’s why, whenever possible, you should find positive activities or things to replace the bad habit.

Example: Former smokers often take up a good habit – like walking – whenever they’re tempted to have a cigarette.

So let’s suppose you tend to mess around on Facebook for an hour every day talking to friends and playing Farmville. You don’t want to do this any more. So, you replace it with a new habit, such as spending that hour doing a task you really enjoy (it might even be related to Facebook, such as working on a social media campaign). That way you don’t miss the absence of your old habit, because you’re replacing it with a better habit or routine.

Remove temptations. Do you have a tendency to slip back into your old ways? Then remove the temptations.

Example: If playing video games is your weakness, then unplug your video console and remove it from sight when you’re working. That way, you won’t see the console and be tempted to “just play five minutes” instead of doing your work. (Because we all know that five minutes easily turns into two hours!)

Rely on accountability partners. You don’t have to do this alone. You shouldn’t do it alone. Most people find that they’re more productive if they have an accountability partner.

Here’s how it works…

You tell your partner your goals for the day, and then at the end of the day you tell your partner whether you achieved your goals or not. It’s psychologically uncomfortable to admit to someone else that you fooled around and didn’t get through your daily to-do list. And of course it’s even more uncomfortable to lie to your partner. That’s why having an accountability partner works so well – it’s easier to just do the work!

3. RECOGNIZE That Quantity Counts

Yes, of course quality matters. But sometimes you need to sacrifice initial quality just to produce quantity, to get some momentum going. That’s because you can always improve the form and substance later on.

Example: Take the example of the yearly novel-writing challenge located That’s a site that encourages people to write 50,000 words of a novel in just one month. Are the participants creating perfect novels in one month? Of course not. But the challenge of producing quantity without worries about quality unlocks creativity and gives people the push they need to make something happen.

You can challenge yourself in the same way. Don’t look for perfection. Instead, focus on quantity. Build momentum. And watch how quickly you propel yourself towards your goals.

4. MAINTAIN for 21 Days

Experts say it takes about 21 days for an average habit to “stick.” And that’s why you should give 100% of your focus for a full 21 days to the new habit you’re forming.

You may start out feeling like you have to force yourself to do the task, but at the end of 21 days it will be much easier. And that’s because it truly will be a habit for you!


And there you have it – you now know how to F.O.R.M. a new habit, by:

FOCUSING on just one thing.

OVERCOMING obstacles.

RECOGNIZING that quantity counts.

MAINTAINING the new habit for 21 days.

This system is so simple, but it really works. So give it a try.

Start with adopting ONE good habit today. Then focus on doing it every day for the next 21 days – I think you’ll be surprised by the results!

Success is NOT an Accident!



“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” ~Michael Jordan

Stop thinking you’re special in your fear of failing.

Everyone fears rejection.

Everyone fears embarrassment.

Everyone fears failure.

Everyone fears wasted effort.

Everyone fears “What if.”

You’re not alone in your fear. Not unique. Not a snowflake.

Fear paralyzes, creates doubt, and magnifies indecision.

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Found: Your Voice!

The Voice on NBC features blind auditions. This is supposedly waaaaaay better than sight auditions where a person’s attractiveness, or lack of, could cause their vocals to take on a different quality to the listener. It’s crazy how the eyes can override the ears like that.

Coaches on sight audition programs like America Idol have been heard to say things like “Uhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Was he singing?” as they wiped their mouths with a napkin after a good looking contestant gave it all they got.

Back to The Voice.

Blake, Usher, Adam and Shakira don’t get to use their eyes in round 1, so their choices are pure. Once they turn around, you immediately find out what they think about the rest of the package. When looks enter the picture, questionable calls can happen at any moment.

Just because someone can sang good doesn’t actually mean they will get to advance. There are two primary reasons good singers go home – even good looking singers…

Number one, they sound like the person who recorded the song they performed for the coaches (and all of America!)

Yep, some of these singers have the audacity to reproduce the exact style and tone of the person selling 1.3 gagilllion downloads of the single. Can you believe it? Wanting to sound like someone who has enough money to buy a country and then fill said country with inhabitant based solely on fan base? Crazy, right?

For example…

Contestant sings “Dude Looks Like a Lady” by Aerosmith. He sounds just like Steven Tyler. On top of that, dude actually looks like a lady. You would think that would be a double whammy of positive outcome. There’s no way this cat can’t win.


Blake, “I don’t know. You really look like a lady and all, which I find attractive and so does Adam, but I couldn’t hear YOU. I just heard Steven Tyler. Maybe if you’d had a scarf draped around you, it would have been better for me. But what do I know? I’ve only won The Voice 3 times and have a bunch of Grammys that are under my butt right now just in case I fight for one of you guys.”

Number two, they don’t sound like anyone. This is sorta unfair. One contestant gets reamed for sounding identical to the original artist, and the next is told they don’t stand out. They don’t have a unique sound.

Moments later they stand in front of the camera fighting tears while exclaiming that it was a honor to be on the show, but deep down they will always remember those words, right?

“You’re trying to sound too much like famous singer who’s mega-rich.”

“You don’t sound distinct. What’s your name again?”

You know what? I think those two reasons are the same reasons we used to go home and stay home instead of releasing our voice.

One the one hand, we clone people. We read an author and feel like we can write that way. We hear a speaker and want to talk that way. It’s natural.

On the other hand, we don’t feel like we have anything special to say. We feel nondescript and monotone.

Listen up!

I’m gonna help you find YOUR voice.

Huh? No. I’m not lying. I’m gonna do it!

Why would I give you such a gift?

Cause I am super nice that’s why! Just ask the three friends I will personally direct you too, and you’ll see it’s true.

Another reason I want you to “find” your voice is because you and the world will be better when you do. You’ll stop whining about not being a snowflake, and you’ll be happy since snowflakes melt in heat and don’t last long in general. You’ll survive every season as YOU.

My gift to you…

5.5.5 Voice Finding Maxims

(For those of you who don’t know what a maxim is, it means fundamental principle. I actually had the word principle right there, but used my handy thesaurus to sound smarter than I am, so you get Maxims!)

1 Your Voice Isn’t Lost – You’re Ignoring It!

You can stop reading after this point if you want. This is really all there is to it.

You’ve used your voice every single day since that first “Mama.”

Every. Single. Day.

You’ve mastered your voice. You know what you think is funny. What you react to. What you love. What you hate. What you find interesting. What you find boring. What you loooooooove to talk about. What you wish would never be mentioned again.

You watch a movie you like and immediately text your friends or, gasp, post it on Facebook for the world. You’re not scared of sharing that. You only lose your voice when you think you’re sharing something important. Then you shift your voice. You try to sound “professional.”


Stop it.

Write. Sing. Speak. – just like you do with your friends. Just like you do every single day.

That’s your real voice. Period.

At least that’s you’re voice right now. If you don’t like it, then proceed…

(Oh, I’d like to take a quick time out and remind you that I said I’d help you find your voice and we already did. Promise delivered! If you would like free training on finding your voice click here.)

2 Forget the Judges

Those blasted judges. Our fate is in their hands! Curses!

If only we can impress them enough to turn their chairs around.

Oh, Wait. They’re really aren’t any judges.

No one waits by their computer to rate your next blog post or Instagram shot. (If they do, they are deranged and need to take some tablets, and you need to block them. I cannot express fully the joy of blocking someone who waits just to trash other folks.)

You THINK everyone stands with rejection stamp in hand.

“Boring post!” Slam! Rejection.

“Boring speaker!” Wham! Rejection.

Lean in here.


Here’s the secret…

There are no judges. Not until you become a NYT bestseller – then everyone who’s never written a book thinks they can boot you. 😉

Until then quit inventing imaginary magistrates.

3 Practice in the Shower

Why the shower? Because you’re alone and hopefully the water is drowning the bad notes, and the echo is glorifying the good ones. However, if you have kids there is no alone space. Ever. Not even the shower. How in the world do they learn how to pick locks at age 2? It’s downright spooky.

Anyway. The shower let’s you let go.

The shower can be literal if you’re singing or an analogy if you’re doing something else.

Here’s an example of a shower if you’re a blogger… get a disposable website. Buy a domain. Set up WordPress. Blog. No one has to see it. Ever.

“But Google will find me somehow and then the world will be reading my stupid.”

Nope. It doesn’t work like that.

That little undisclosed blog will give you the greatest creative gift you could ever wish upon a star to receive…


Permission to write what you want the way you want. Permission to say what you want the way you want. You know you’ve always wanted to. You’re whole life you’ve wanted to be a free bird. (That’s why it’s the most requested song ever, even at Miley Cyrus “concerts.”)

If you’re a little slow, the point is this: You need a place where you get to practice without critique.

4 PRACTICE in the Shower

Ready to be blown away? Ready? Those coaches on The Voice, they can really sing. They can carry it. They can bring it. If you’re from the 90’s, they’re the bomb. If you’re from the 80’s they are for real. If you’re from the 70’s it doesn’t really matter because the dope has erased that decade.

Those judges/coaches can sing.

The insane part? They practice. But not practice. They PRACTICE. They work on their craft. Breathing exercises. Riffs. Rolls. Lip beaters with trills. And not a single one of them can look cool while doing any of those drills. It’s impossible because all singing drills look and sound silly.

One of the exercises my one-day vocal coach has be do sounded like a mix of Ray Ramona and Yogi Bear. I fired him and went out in search of my manhood.

The pros don’t care. They hit it hard with the silly, so they can SING. It’s not just talent on the loose. It’s trained, honed, bleeding vocal chord talent.

Are you willing to put in the hard work to make your voice great?

Answer the question.

Did you answer, “Yes!”?

I’m not surprised. Everyone answers yes. Everyone says they will.

Not to hurt your feelings, but it’s a little fib we all like to tell ourselves. The truth is we’d already be working our tails off if it were a true “Yes.”

To get a great Voice is gonna take more than you’ve ever given in your life. Some days you will radiate glory and the next you will be crumpled on the curb with your head leaned in the street as you dare the oncoming traffic.

Too graphic? Not if you said, “Yes!” You’ve gotta be willing to face it all. Finding your voice is a cinch. Honing your voice requires blood, sweat and tears. Sometimes all three at once.

5 Siiiiiiiiiiing

Stop studying the masters. Stop buying all the stuff that you hope will automatically transform you.

Write. Sing. Speak. Paint. Build. Ride. Climb.

Whatever your voice does, do it.



Do that thing you’re called to do the way you do it.

5.5 Listen Back

We live in advanced times. You can get microscopic wireless ear buds for your listening pleasure. But you go to the studio and the pros have on those earphones the size of the Empire State Building. King Kong could wear those suckers listening to Run DMC, while he’s scaling the building with that woman in his hand.

In today’s advanced age of technology why in the world are artists wearing phonographs?

They do not want to hear anything but the voice. The music. The song.

We loooooove distraction. Squirrel.

Twitter and Facebook stream. Youtube screams. There’s a constant invitation to distraction.

Result? We don’t hear too well. We don’t listen close to our own voice because there are soooo many other voices surrounding us. And they’re loud. Baby at 2 am loud.

Put on your 1956 headphones. Block out the crap. Listen to you. Evaluate. Make adjustments. Tweak. Edit.

5.5.5 Launch

You gotta go public.

You gotta let others hear your voice.

You gotta be ok with the results as you continue to grow.

Everything can’t be great. Oh, I’m sure there’s a book out there saying every moment of your life can change the world, but that’s poppycock.

Heck, the same dude who wrote and rode “Thriller” and “Billie Jean” to #1 also released “Butterflies.” Everything can’t be a hit.

Our voice is designed to be shared not stifled. You’ve probably already mastered stifling. Cut it out. Let it go!

Whew! Well, I think that’s just about enough. You’re probably tired of hearing my voice by now. I know I am.

Success is NOT an Accident!


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Resistance Part 2

I intended to go to the gym this morning.


I worked out a couple of days ago and I am pretty sure I felt some residual soreness. Some lingering lactic acid. No, it has nothing to do with aging and the lessening of my superhuman recovery.

I intended to write a book. Actually books. I’ve got about 6 folders on my system. Most of those have subfolders with chapter titles.

Odd. Inspiration just won’t strike. Ben Franklin had better luck with a kite and a key than I am having finishing the next bestseller.

I intended to…

Annnnnnnnnnnd there you have it.

The great deceit. Resistance’s greatest power. One word: Intention.

When we have “intentions” we fool our minds into believing we are about to do good. We are close to taking action. We are mentally moving toward that step.

Then we… relax. We breath. We exhale. Because we know we’re going to… we intend to… someday.

Resistance laughs. Rubs his hands together. Salivates. Another dreamer lies on the cold steel table of intention.

Resistance isn’t bothered by dreams. It doesn’t sweat or get worried with scheming and planning and blueprints.

Resistance couldn’t care less about the MAC air you bought to blog on. It’s not bothered by the new running outfit, or all the diet books you bought. It’s not quaking in fear about the organic eggs you just bought.

Resistance doesn’t scatter just because you shake you fist in the air and scream, “This time is going to be different!”


Because the MAC, the outfit, the books, the eggs, the primal scream… they are all just intentions.

But there is something Resistance fears. That’s in tomorrow’s email.

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Where I am + ____________ = Where I want to be.

That’s the way we process. Very succinct. Linear. Point A to Point B. Straight line and no interruptions.

When you set a goal your mind sees the beginning. A successful end. And smooth going in between.

However, that ________________ holds smooth sailing AND crashing waves.

That ________________ is less like ____________ and more like ___^^@#%_____ #&@^%#$___<<<<<<<__. You want easy and consistent. You get jagged and unpredictable. That’s the path to achievement. The true path. There are waves, unexpected storms, sea monsters and mechanical breakdowns that slow you down and, of course, times of great speed and smooth sailing. Out of everything you face one thing will capsize you more than anything else. Steven Pressfield in The War of Art coins it… The Resistance. You see, everything mentioned above becomes fairly easy to recognize and handle, even if it takes resolve, muscle and forceful action. But Resistance – it’s the thing that keeps you from ever getting in the boat. It keeps you on shore. It convinces you that safe comfort is far better than adventure and risk. Resistance whispers, “Tomorrow.” Resistance convinces you that the dream was more like a joke. Resistance provides the reason why you shouldn’t, at least for now, take the helm when you could lay on the beach with a nice cocoa butter sheen. Resistance keeps the boat in the harbor, the canvas blank, the book pageless, the gym unused, the running shoes in the closet, the resume on the hard drive, and the dream in the heart and out of the hands. The goal of Resistance is to prevent achievement in any form. To inhibit a single step. Sometimes Resistance comes with power. It’s a battle. Sometimes it comes with a subtle whisper. It’s a warm bath. The later is what I want to share with you in the next email, “The Greatest Deceit.” Using a single word you will discover the easiest way Resistance enters your heart and defeats you. It’s more than a little embarrassing. Success is NOT an Accident! Paul

Do the Hustle

Originally the “hustle” was a dance in the 1970’s. (Whew! Just a sliver before my time.)

Then hustle meant to make money doing something a little bit shady.

I guess hustle can still mean both of those, but today it’s more focused on getting after it. Crushing it.

Grant Cardone talks about working your Hustle Muscle.

Jon Acuff is doing a 30 Days of Hustle Challenge right now.

Jeff Goins helps others hustle by writing 500 words a day.

Whatever it is you want, it’s not just gonna happen.

Hustle is more than going through the steps – it’s adding intensity and intention to the steps.

Ex: I’m part of Jeff’s 500 Words group.

I can…

1 Write 500 words a day and complete the goal.

2. I can write 500 words of hustle and achieve results.

500 words feels nice and neat. And honestly, if anyone who hasn’t been writing suddenly writes 500 words a day – then applause. That’s a great accomplishment. Hurrrrrray!


That doesn’t mean the words will impact.

Hustle writing, on the other hand, produces results in yourself and others.

Intentional – you set out with a purpose for your writing. You have a reason to write and that reason is more than writing by itself.

Intensity – you become more aware of how words make people feel, not just how you make people think. You choose words that will produce an emotional response or a reaction when needed.

Weave hustle into your life.

Become intentional and intense in your workouts. You will burn more calories and build more muscle in the same amount of time.

Become intentional and intense in your relationships. You will burn more candles and build deeper connections.

Become intentional and intense in your business. You will burn less cash and build more thrilled customers.

What are you planning to do today?

Add hustle.

I can make _________ more intentional by ______________________.

I can make ___________ more intense by _______________________.


Some folks hear this and get extreme.

“I’m gonna crush it everywhere. I am going to hustle every waking minute!!”

Be careful, that’s deranged.

It’s not possible.

It will lead to burnout, adrenaline crashes and severe disappointment.

Hustle where you can. When you can. That’s enough.

Hustle somewhere tho! We’ve got enough zombies out there!!!

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The Danger of Day 7

It’s day 7!

We’re still so close to January 1, we can still touch it. Maybe even taste it if you had enough bacon.

But before long, we’ll cross the threshold. The New Year will simply become 2014. Yes, it’s even dangerous here on day seven because by now we’ve reentered “reality.” And if we don’t stay focused…

We’ll drift.

We’ll settle in.

The fresh will become stale, or worse, ripen and rot if we are not careful. Very careful.

The pattern is typical.

“I can’t wait for the New Year!”

“This year will be different!”

“I’m ready!”

“Awwwwww just this once. It won’t derail me.”

“What year is it?”

Obviously, I’ve lived that at times, and I am willing to bet you have too.

I’ve also witnessed it thousands of times.

You see, back in the 90’s (yes, 1990’s, give me a break). Ok, ok, the EARLY 90’s. I owned a fitness center. We actually opened on January 1, and the place was packed. Jammed. Rocking!

My business partner, Mike, and I were pumped (and not just from lifting weights)! It was amazing how many members joined. We knew we had made the right business decision to unlock those doors.

Then February came.


Lots of folks missing.

Lots of resolutions broken.

Lots of chips being eaten.

And here’s the thing… not a single one of those folks had planned to quit. On January 1, you would not have been able to convince them they would be watching reruns of Seinfeld with chip crumbs wedged in their creases.

Promise. You couldn’t have.

On the other hand, there were two groups of people that remained.

#1 The Driven

#2 The Determined

The driven just have it in them. They show up. They crush it. They go home. They don’t feel the need anyone or anything. They’re preconditioned.

Listen, those folks are rare. Super rare.

And if we’re honest, we admire them and are bugged by them at the same time. 😉

The determined, on the other hand, usually had a training partner. They knew the chances of showing up time and time again alone was just too risky.

(Confession: Even when I was competing in bodybuilding and power lifting, I needed a partner to keep me going. It was just too easy to not show up.)

However, BOTH groups did far better when they worked with a personal trainer.

The answer is obvious, right?

It’s one thing to workout and go through the motions. It’s another when someone is taking you through the motions who knows how the body works and knows you well enough to push you to the point you need.

Major difference in results.

Soooooo…… (And this might seem a little forward)

Would you like for me to be your personal trainer?

No, not in the gym, but in your life and business?

I’d be honored to be the one to help you.

Through the years I’ve trained thousands of people to set and reach goals. Thousands of people to become better communicators. Thousands of people to start and build their online business. I love it!

If you would like for someone to push you, answer your questions, help you put together the perfect life and or business plan, then just click here to raise your hand and I’ll send you the details!

The options on that page are primarily for online business builders. If you would like to focus on the areas of public speaking or productivity and achievement, then I’d be glad to create a custom program for you. Just email me.

But look over the options first because we will be working together in a similar format. :)



p.s. After looking over the programs if you have any questions just use the email address under my picture at the bottom of this page. :)


I Don’t Wanna!!!!

Since January 1, I’ve been writing at least 500 words a day.

And let me make this clear…

I. Do. Not. Like. Writing.

I like talking. It’s easier for me.


(See? When I said “funner,” Autocorrect put a red line under it to condemn me. It’s not a word. But it is waaaaaaaaaaay better than “more fun” – which is technically accurate. Which is another reason I don’t like to write.)


Why am I doing this?

#1 It’s forcing me to create structure.

I usually do what I want when I want. This is forcing me to break out of my pattern.

#2 It’s forces the use of different synapses.

Of course, being from Alabama I’ve no idea what a synapses is, but they use it on NCSI a lot.

Bottom line: Writing produces thoughts that streamline speaking doesn’t. Chances are high that you will generate different “ah-ha” thoughts when writing than with speaking.

#3 Jeff Goins told me to do it.

Well, he told thousands of other folks too. But Jeff’s a cool dude and he said I could write 500 incoherent words a day if I wanted. That made sense to me. A goal I could reach!

In fact, he says that what you write about doesn’t matter!

I like that!!

So here I am on day six justa typing away. Doing what I don’t like because it will make me better in several areas of life.

I quoted it last week…

“The unsuccessful focus on pleasing methods. The successful on pleasing results.” – Brian Tracy.

If everything has to “feel good” in order to get done, then we’re in for a world of nothing.

Some stuff just needs finishing. Period.

I didn’t like eating a healthy breakfast this morning. I wanted bacon wrapped donuts. Instead I ate a bland high protein meal. Wasn’t exciting. But I will be excited about the RESULTS in about a week.

Focus on the results, not the method.

I am not excited about writing. But I will be thrilled with the result as I learn to leverage words more effectively.


What are you about to give up on (that you shouldn’t) because it’s not as fun as you want?


Suck it up. Do it anyway.

Success is NOT an Accident!



Action Talker or Action Taker?

Stop talking. Start doing.

We looooooooove to talk about what we are GOING to do.

“I’m going to learn Spanish.”

“I’m going to hit the gym and lose ten.”

“I’m going to call him up and tell him what’s on my mind.”

“I’m going to finish that addition to the house.”

“I’m going to start a savings account.”

“I’m going to drink less sodas.”

“I’m going to launch a blog.”

“I’m going to create an online business.”

All of that is action talking.

And it feels so gooooooood. It feels great to broadcast all those intentions. It feels like a step has been taken since the first step is making a decision.

But a decision hasn’t been made most of the time. It’s just talk. Stuff we think about that helps us believe we’re really going to do something.

Instead of talking about the gym… GO.

Instead of talking about saving money… SAVE.

Instead of talking about ________ … DO IT.

Stop talking. Start moving.

Success is your duty, responsibility and obligation.

Average never yields anything more than average and usually much less. Average thinking and actions will only guarantee you misery, uncertainty and failure.

How to T.W.E.A.K. Your Way to Success

Tell me, what do you do after a win of any kind?

You probably celebrate, right? That’s great. But if you want to rack up even more wins in your future, then you also need to take a moment and analyze your successes.

Of course this goes for your failures too.

You can’t just shrug off your disappointments and say, “Well that was some bad luck.” Instead, you need to reflect on them… and grow strong and better as a result of them.

How? By learning how to T.W.E.A.K. your way to big success with these five steps:

T – TAKE Inventory

W – WEIGH Options


A – ASK for Help

K – KEEP Moving

Let’s look at each of these components in more detail…

1. TAKE Inventory

This is something you need to do on a regular basis. You might take inventory of your past week, a project you just wrapped up, or even take inventory of what’s happened in the last month.

Basically, you ask yourself two questions:

  • What went right?
  • What went wrong?

Both of those questions are important.

If you’re only focusing on what went right, you’re just setting yourself up to make the same mistakes next time. And if you only focus on what went wrong, you’ll totally overlook taking the steps that made this particular project or time period so successful.

2. WEIGH Options

Your next step is to take a good look at the mistakes you identified in step 1.

You now need to figure out what you can do better and how you can avoid making this mistake again. To that end, ask yourself these questions:

  • •What can you do to correct the problem?
  • What can you do to avoid the problem in the future?
  • What can you do to get better results?

Of course you also need to look at the wins you identified in the previous step. Ask yourself:

  • What can you do to duplicate and multiply your successes?
  • What can you do to get even better results?

Go ahead and brainstorm. Think outside the box. Don’t censor yourself… just let your creative mind come up with creative solutions and ideas.

Tip: For best results, turn this into a true brainstorming session. First, block off a chunk of uninterrupted time (at least 60 minutes). Then eliminate all other distractions, such as by turning off your cell phone and shutting down your email client. Finally, just start brainstorming without judging or censoring your ideas. You might be surprised at just how powerful your mind is when you completely unleash it on a problem!


You’re looking for wins. So if you see that you have an ongoing problem (one that’s not easily corrected) or there’s something that creates a lot of waste, consider cutting it.

Example: Maybe you’ve created a book that’s not selling. You’ve tried tweaking the sales letter, you’ve tried alternate traffic sources… and the darn thing just won’t sell.
So maybe you just take it off the market so that you don’t have to spend any more money advertising or hosting a product that doesn’t convert.

You might even repurpose or recycle the content to at least get some benefit out of (such as by chopping the book up into articles and posting it on your blog).

4. ASK for Help

The idea here is to focus on your strengths. There are certain things you like to do, and you likely also do those things really well. But on the other side of the coin, there are certain tasks that you just don’t do well. They frustrate you, they take a long time and maybe you’re not very good at them.

You know what? Stop struggling.

Instead, hand those tasks over to an expert. That frees up your time to focus on what you do well, which in turn helps you rack up more wins.

Take me as an example…

Example: I love sharing ideas through any form of communication. And so that’s why I focus on writing articles, blog posts, podcasts and more.

However, tech stuff makes my eyes roll back in my head. I’d rather not sit around trying to figure out what line of code I need to tweak in order to make a blog theme look better. Instead, I hand this sort of stuff over to a coding and design expert, which free up more of my time to focus on writing. (And it also puts me in a better headspace, because having someone else handle the tech end of my business relieves me of a lot of hair-pulling stress.)

I used a business example above. However, this certainly extends to your personal life, too.

Example: If cleaning isn’t your thing – if you don’t do it well or it just seems to take a lot of time – delegate it to another family member or hire a professional. Either way, you’ll free up your valuable time to focus on more important things.

5. KEEP Moving

So at this point you’ve done a pretty good evaluation of what went wrong with a project, what went well, and how you can do everything even better next time.

However, now isn’t the time to just nod and agree that your evaluation was useful. Instead, it’s time to take action based on what you just learned. And that means you need to plan your next steps.

Example: Let’s suppose you wrote a book and put it in the Kindle marketplace, but it didn’t do well. And let’s suppose one reason it didn’t do well is because you tried to make your own book cover, which wasn’t very good. As such, one of your next action steps is to have a professional create a new cover. And you’ll also make a note to have a professional designer create all future book covers, too.

The idea is to analyze your successes and failures, determine what you can do better next time, get rid of things that aren’t working, outsource or delegate tasks that are difficult for you and keep moving forward.

Once you start to T.W.E.A.K. your success, you too will start racking up more wins!


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