Decide

Do you really want to change your world? Do you want better friendships? A better relationship with the Lord? A greater heart for service? A happier home life? Decide. 029 Decide [ 5:20 ] Play Now | Play in Popup | Download Write it down. “Here’s what I want to change…” Wanting to change and wishing to change are two different things. If you want things to change, but you’re not willing to put in the work, then you’re wishing. If you decide you want change, but you’re not willing to pay the price, then you’re dreaming. Deciding is not singular. It’s not a one-time event. It’s not a solitary thought. Deciding includes thinking, planning, plodding and producing. It’s not linear. There will be distractions, diversions and derailments. But if you’ve truly made the decision, you keep going. You keep pushing. You keep paying. You keep praying. Just because you’re making a “good” decision doesn’t mean it will be simple or easy. Just because you want to grow as person and impact your world doesn’t mean you won’t get damaged along the way. For some reason we tend to think that setting good goals will somehow protect us from the battle. Since we’re doing the “right thing” then everything should just fall into place. (Here’s some ammonia to sniff. Breathe deep. Wake up!) In fact, often the opposite is true. Let’s say you decide to be a better mom. You read books, attend seminars, follow advice and become a living sacrifice… then what happens? Everyone takes you for granted! Our decision for change cannot be based on our reception...

“I’ll Work on That”

When someone says, “You know, you really need to change…” Too often we get defensive. Too often we get hurt. Too often we point to a flaw in the person telling us what to change. Too often we justify. Instead, like my buddy did in the last post, we could just say, “I’ll work on that.” And then do it. Work on it. Example: “I’m SICK of the way our house is a wreck because you will never pick anything up!” The proper response is NOT… “Well, you don’t seem to be doing to much with yourself, so I certainly didn’t think the house mattered.” Repeat. That is NOT that way to respond. Instead… “I’ll work on that.” Then do it. No committee is necessary. You don’t need to read a book on how to pick up after yourself. You don’t need a seminar or course. Most of the changes we need to make are simple. Just a tiny bit of thought. A little awareness. “Huh, there’s underwear hanging on that lamp. Seems like something should be done… ahhhhhhh… I could take that to the laundry!” See. Simple. And MOST of life is like that. MOST of the changes we need to make are like that. Simple. If pride doesn’t get us first. If we can accept that helping others doesn’t make us look weak. That doing something, even if it’s status quo, doesn’t make us a sellout. Let’s listen to what those around us say we need to change. Let’s change. At the very, very least let’s say… “I’ll work on that.”...

Initiative is War!

“Have a New Kid By Friday” “Reach All Your Goals In 30 Days” “Click 3 Buttons And Get Rich Online.” Fast. Easy. Impossible results. That’s all we want. And delivered within the next hour thank you. Some change actually is easy. But most is war. It’s a battle. And there are injuries. How often do you hear people say… “Wow, I never knew raising children was so easy? No conflict or drama. It’s so hard to believe they do every single thing I say without sass.” “Losing those 33 pounds was a cinch. I love tuna from a can. Donuts and pizza? Don’t make me throw up, just give me a handful of almonds any day.” “I am so glad I started my own business. It’s so much easier than an 8-5 job. I hate getting a dependable paycheck with little risk on my part. It’s so much better to wonder if I am going to get a check at all each month.” Regardless of the goal, there will be blood. It will be harder than fantasied. You will want to give up. Many times you will. Steven Pressfield calls this Resistance. “Resistance cannot be seen, heard, touched, or smelled. But it can be felt… Resistance is a repelling force. It’s negative. Its aim is to shove us away, distract us, prevent us from doing our work.” Our lives want, even demand, comfort and immediate gratification. The sooner we accept that hard work and war are required for impact and achievement – the sooner we’ll hop out of the hammock and take up our...

Better Off

Better Off OK, so you want to change your world. You’ve decided. You’re serious. You want to be able to lay down at night, review the day and say, “Yep, it was good for me to be alive today.” I know that sounds a little egocentric. You can’t really go around saying, “You’re lucky I’m alive,” can you? Well, I wouldn’t go around saying it out loud, but it’s pretty important that you feel important in order to generate the change you’re wanting to see in your world. In Philippians 1, Paul wrestled between going to be with the Lord or staying here. I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far; but it is more necessary for you that I remain in the body. Convinced of this, I know that I will remain, and I will continue with all of you for your progress and joy in the faith, so that through my being with you again your boasting in Christ Jesus will abound on account of me. Paul says, “You’re better off because of me.” He knew that his life made a difference. (Even though he would have preferred to move on.) Sit down and think for 15-20 solid minutes. Write down how others are better off because of you. This isn’t to make you feel superior. It’s to help you see you’re essential. Make a list of the people you come in contact with the most. Write out beside each name the positive ways you contribute to their lives. This isn’t the time for false humility....

Initiative is Movement

Move. Don’t just sit there… thinking… about how you want your life to be. Move. Take a step. Read the book by your bedside that promises to help you through depression. Take the painting course to unleash the Picasso you’re captivating. Get a sadist of a personal trainer to get you back in shape. Turn off the computer and put down the phone. Then get in the yard with that kid who sits on the coach with ball and glove. Set your alarm, jump up and head to your local soup kitchen to help for the morning. Make a list of five people and write notes of gratitude. What is it that you’ve been MEANING to do, but ignoring? You life won’t change for the better without movement. Meditation is good for clarity. Movement is critical for...