How to F.O.R.M. Successful Habits

Think about some of the most successful people you know. Now ask yourself:

Why are they so successful?

Naturally, a variety of factors play into their success, such as having a positive mindset. However, if you look at these successful people carefully, you’ll quickly discover that virtually all of them have one thing in common.

Namely, they’ve all developed good habits. And if you want to become successful, then you too must learn to replace your bad habits with good habits.

You’ve probably tried this before, either in your personal life or business.

Sometimes the good habits stick for a while, but you’ve no doubt noticed how easy it is to slip back into old habits. Of course when you slip back into old habits, nothing changes. You stagnate. You can’t move forward.

So let’s break the pattern, starting right now!

Let’s start by having you learn now to F.O.R.M. successful habits. Here’s my success system that you can start using to F.O.R.M. your own good habits:

F – FOCUS on one thing at a time.

O – OVERCOME challenges.

R – RECOGNIZE that quantity counts.

M – MAINTAIN for 21 days.

What do these four steps mean and how can they help you achieve your goals? Let me explain…

1. FOCUS on One Thing at a Time

Whenever you start to make big changes in your life, it’s easy to get overwhelmed.

Maybe in the first few days or weeks it works out, simply because you’re running on pure adrenaline. But after that, making too many changes at once overwhelms you, spreads your energies too thin or just plain burns you out.

So forget about trying to do everything at once. Instead, pick ONE good habit you’d like to adopt and focus on that one thing.

How to choose?

You might start with a habit you think will bring you the best results.

Example: If you are looking to start an online business, you might adopt the habit of getting up 90 minutes before everyone else in your household, just so that you have a quiet time to work.

2. OVERCOME Challenges

No matter what you’re doing, there’s no question that there are going to be obstacles. So, your job is to anticipate these challenges and obstacles so that you can make a plan for overcoming them.

So, your next task is to spend 15 or 20 minutes brainstorming all the possible challenges you’re likely to face as you adopt new habits. Then make a plan and take steps to reduce if not entirely avoid the impact of these challenges.

Here are four additional tips to keep in mind:

Remind yourself with a trigger. Let’s suppose that one of your personal obstacles is a tendency to get distracted and start doing other things.

You might use a positive trigger to remind yourself to stay focused, such as sending yourself an encouraging email the night before that you’ll see when you sit down to work in the morning. Or you might set a timer by your computer to remind yourself to stay on task.

Replace things you are changing. If you simply stop one bad behavior, you’ll notice (and miss) its absence. That’s why, whenever possible, you should find positive activities or things to replace the bad habit.

Example: Former smokers often take up a good habit – like walking – whenever they’re tempted to have a cigarette.

So let’s suppose you tend to mess around on Facebook for an hour every day talking to friends and playing Farmville. You don’t want to do this any more. So, you replace it with a new habit, such as spending that hour doing a task you really enjoy (it might even be related to Facebook, such as working on a social media campaign). That way you don’t miss the absence of your old habit, because you’re replacing it with a better habit or routine.

Remove temptations. Do you have a tendency to slip back into your old ways? Then remove the temptations.

Example: If playing video games is your weakness, then unplug your video console and remove it from sight when you’re working. That way, you won’t see the console and be tempted to “just play five minutes” instead of doing your work. (Because we all know that five minutes easily turns into two hours!)

Rely on accountability partners. You don’t have to do this alone. You shouldn’t do it alone. Most people find that they’re more productive if they have an accountability partner.

Here’s how it works…

You tell your partner your goals for the day, and then at the end of the day you tell your partner whether you achieved your goals or not. It’s psychologically uncomfortable to admit to someone else that you fooled around and didn’t get through your daily to-do list. And of course it’s even more uncomfortable to lie to your partner. That’s why having an accountability partner works so well – it’s easier to just do the work!

3. RECOGNIZE That Quantity Counts

Yes, of course quality matters. But sometimes you need to sacrifice initial quality just to produce quantity, to get some momentum going. That’s because you can always improve the form and substance later on.

Example: Take the example of the yearly novel-writing challenge located That’s a site that encourages people to write 50,000 words of a novel in just one month. Are the participants creating perfect novels in one month? Of course not. But the challenge of producing quantity without worries about quality unlocks creativity and gives people the push they need to make something happen.

You can challenge yourself in the same way. Don’t look for perfection. Instead, focus on quantity. Build momentum. And watch how quickly you propel yourself towards your goals.

4. MAINTAIN for 21 Days

Experts say it takes about 21 days for an average habit to “stick.” And that’s why you should give 100% of your focus for a full 21 days to the new habit you’re forming.

You may start out feeling like you have to force yourself to do the task, but at the end of 21 days it will be much easier. And that’s because it truly will be a habit for you!


And there you have it – you now know how to F.O.R.M. a new habit, by:

FOCUSING on just one thing.

OVERCOMING obstacles.

RECOGNIZING that quantity counts.

MAINTAINING the new habit for 21 days.

This system is so simple, but it really works. So give it a try.

Start with adopting ONE good habit today. Then focus on doing it every day for the next 21 days – I think you’ll be surprised by the results!

Success is NOT an Accident!


025 Live On Purpose

Had breakfast with my buddy Jon this morning. Sorta goal update and revival.

We got off on a tangent about “the meaning of life,” living your purpose, and other such things.


Living your purpose can be difficult because you may spend your lifetime searching for YOUR purpose – if there’s even such a thing to be found. However, you can live ON purpose right now. Today. This second.

Here were some thoughts that came up. Maybe they will strike a chord with you and be helpful to your achievement regardless of you goal.

Live ON Purpose.

Stop being an accident waiting to happen. I am a firm believer that you should be able to lay down at night and know you added value to the world.

This might seem silly, but the tip I left the waitress this morning for example. She’s better off. I left a tip on purpose. A tip she would be grateful for. A tip that lets me rest easy tonight for having made another’s life a little bit better.

You don’t have to be Mother Teresa to live a meaningful life. You only have to be intentional with the lives around you.

Plan On Purpose.

Scheduling your week is not just so the calendar is full. Have purpose associated with every activity/task.

“Walk for an hour” is much different than “Walk for an hour, burn 400 calories, and work toward becoming a machine so I can play for hours with my kids without collapsing.”

One of those is a plan. One is a plan on purpose. I bet you can figure out which is which.

Start On Purpose.

Let’s say you have a job. Let’s say you just sorta waltz in each morning like you did the day before. Let’s say you don’t find a lot of meaning in your job and you’re frustrated about it.

Start on purpose. Assign yourself a task to perform right when you get to the office. Something you’re going to do right out of the gate. This wipes out a mindless start that searches for something to do. It avoids, “What should I be working on?” Within five minutes of punching in, you can know that you’re living on purpose because you started on purpose.

You literally can use this in every area. Meals, exercise, work, play, relationships, goals… you name it. Start on purpose.

Stay On Purpose

We all drift. We all start strong and then get soft. It’s not enough to remind yourself of your goals each day. It’s not enough to review your plan. You have to know the reasons that anchor your goals. (In the 5 Stones training, this is the Cornerstone.)

You stay on purpose when you engage an action with a specific reason.

Back to the earlier example… Let’s say I want to skip my workout. The reason (Cornerstone) for the workout is so I can get in shape and play for hours with my kids. If I don’t face that on purpose then I will probably skip the workout and grab some donuts. However, if I think, “I am choosing donuts over my kids,” that’s totally different. That’s shameful. Because the purpose of the workout is soooo much bigger.

If you’ll plan on purpose, start on purpose, and stay on purpose you will live on purpose.

Success is NOT an Accident!


P.S. Thanks to all who sent in questions for the free coaching I held on Friday. You should have received a reply by now unless you emailed after the session time ended.


Do you really want to change your world?

Do you want better friendships?

A better relationship with the Lord?

A greater heart for service?

A happier home life?



Write it down. “Here’s what I want to change…”

Wanting to change and wishing to change are two different things.

If you want things to change, but you’re not willing to put in the work, then you’re wishing.

If you decide you want change, but you’re not willing to pay the price, then you’re dreaming.

Deciding is not singular. It’s not a one-time event. It’s not a solitary thought.

Deciding includes thinking, planning, plodding and producing.

It’s not linear. There will be distractions, diversions and derailments.

But if you’ve truly made the decision, you keep going. You keep pushing. You keep paying. You keep praying.

Just because you’re making a “good” decision doesn’t mean it will be simple or easy. Just because you want to grow as person and impact your world doesn’t mean you won’t get damaged along the way.

For some reason we tend to think that setting good goals will somehow protect us from the battle. Since we’re doing the “right thing” then everything should just fall into place.

(Here’s some ammonia to sniff. Breathe deep. Wake up!)

In fact, often the opposite is true.

Let’s say you decide to be a better mom. You read books, attend seminars, follow advice and become a living sacrifice… then what happens? Everyone takes you for granted! 🙂

Our decision for change cannot be based on our reception or acceptance. We serve because it’s who we are and what we give not what we get.

We move with precise intention. Focusing on doing the right things at the right times.  But it begins with an intentional decision.

Back to the original question…

Do you REALLY want to change your world?

It may get expensive. It will definitely be challenging, even heartbreaking at times. It will also be filled with laughter, joy and excitement.

It will simply be life.

Success is NOT an Accident,


Across the street from my rental in Mexico is a lavandería.


1. Weight your clothes and charge per pound.

2. Wash and dry your clothes.

3. Put your clothes in a plastic bag.


Because it’s hot and our team is working in the morning, spending time with the angels in the afternoon, and eating out at night – it’s easy to go through 3 set of clothes a day.

I took in 4 days worth to the laundry.

Grand total… $2.30. I was not upset.

Here’s the operation…

photo 2

photo 3

Simple. Weigh. Wash. Dry.

But what do WE do?

If we decide to workout we buy the best equipment. Best workout clothes. We might research the best shoes for days.

If we decide to work from home we buy a nice desk. Upgrade our laptop. Print enough business cards for the next 3 centuries.

We confuse preparing for action with results. We feel that getting ultimately prepared always has to come first.

Hey, you’ll lose more weight walking in loafers than researching shoes.

You’ll make more money with your sad website than a perfect website you never get up.

I love my little lavandería.

No fancy equipment. Machines that do the job. People who love to serve. Sometimes that’s all you need.

Success is NOT an Accident!

Do you know what time it is?

6:04 am

So far today…

  • Recorded a podcast, edited, uploaded, posted.
  • Created a new lead page
  • Answered coaching questions
  • Created mp4 downloads of Core4
  • Shared an article with Club Level on Facebook
  • Listened to a chapter of 10X by Grant Cardone
  • Worked out.

6:06 am

Although I write and teach about productivity and goal setting, the
fact remains that without discipline none of the above would happen.

Most people in the “working world” are still asleep. They “don’t
have time” to start or work on an outside business. They don’t have
time to work on their body. They don’t have time to _________. Just
fill in the blank.

If you get up a little bit early and knock out some tasks, you are
lapping the field.

If you work while others sleep, you get so far ahead they can’t
catch you.

However, you can have the best plan, the best list to accomplish,
and even the best intentions, but without self-discipline none of
those will happen if they are not obligations.

6:09 am

Productivity does not exist without discipline. Laying in bed
wondering if you should get up and work or workout or whatever is a
waste of time. It’s undisciplined and accomplishes nothing.

Look at your clock. Do you know what time it is?

It’s… NOW.

Whatever you should be doing, do it NOW.





“I’m unmotivated.”

Ever felt unmotivated? You just didn’t “feel” like doing X?

No one is exempt.

The difference between those who achieve and those who merely dream is doing what you should do, when you should do it, whether you want to or not.

Lack of motivation comes from lack of motive. Lack of reason. Lack of why this must be done.

Lack of motivation comes from lack of consequence. Lack of penalty. Lack of pain if you don’t.

Lack of motivation comes from lack of certainty. Lack of assurance. Lack of knowing the result.

Lack of motivation comes from lack of drive. Lack of push. Lack of acceleration toward the goal.

Watch this video called “Unstoppable” for some motivation to get you moving and gaining momentum.

This coming Monday, July 7 at 3 pm CDT / 4 pm EDT

ACHIEVE Discipline

We will dive into…

  • The culture of manufacture celebrity and success and how it has made us sorry and lazy.
  • Your two worst enemies and how to conquer them.
  • The three requirements for achievement. If you will do #3 you’ll never have an issue with success ever again.
  • How to stop being a quitter.
  • Your duty, responsibility and obligation. This section will kick mediocrity and average in the back-end!
  • The 4 quadrants of accomplishment. This last section will really take the blinders off. It explains why we get some things done immediately and others we mess around with or make excuses. Hit the right quadrant and you will explode your results.

Without a shadow of a doubt this training will help you gain self-discipline.

Whether you make it to the live training or catch the replay it will be worth it.

Are you in? Are you ready to win?

Join Achieve

Success is NOT an Accident!

p.s. After this session ACHIEVE will be $197. Join Achieve

026 Achieve Self-Discipline

The war of self-discipline

We all have things we should be doing that we don’t. We all make promises to ourselves that we don’t keep.

Let’s say you promise to run every morning. The night before you set out your gear, plan the route, drink a big glass of water. You feel ready!

Next morning the motivation has vanished. You sit on the edge of your bed. Your shoes are starring up at you. Are they smirking? Are they actually saying, “I told you so!”?

Yet, even with sneaker laughter, you sit. Thinking. Weighing the pros and cons. Imagining how tired you will get. Concentrating on how hard it will be. Finally, you decide, “I just don’t want to.”

So you don’t. You hit the shower. Grab a donut. Head to work. Promising yourself that tomorrow will be different. (Liar.)

Why do some people make it and others don’t? Why do some achieve their goals and others give-up soon after they start? Why do some stare their shoes into submission, lace them up, then pound the pavement; while others follow the path above?


Here’s the definition… “Self-discipline is the ability to do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.” Elbert Hubbard

  • It makes you hit the ground running.
  • It forces you to finish the task.
  • It compels you to chase the dream.
  • It calls for you to keep going when you don’t feel like it.
  • It questions your lazy and your quit.
  • It drags you into completion.
  • It creates guilt when you stop too soon.
  • It interrogates your motives and your why.
  • It takes the reigns and cracks the whip.
  • It punches the acceleration on achievement.

And most of humanity lacks it.

They sit in front of the tv eating cheese curls waiting for their world to change. Or they buy the next distraction. Or they sip on good intentions as they plan their next conquest.

People (you and me) don’t fail for lack of a plan. We have plans, formulas, roadmaps, blueprints – you name it. Anything you want to achieve, a plan already exists. That’s not the issue. The issue is persistent, consistent action. Period.

Here’s my question to you – would you like to become self-disciplined? Would you like to win more of the battles you’re losing with will power and accomplishment?

This coming Monday, July 7 at 3 pm CDT / 4 pm EDT

ACHIEVE Discipline

We will dive into…

  • The culture of manufacture celebrity and success and how it has made us sorry and lazy.
  • Your two worst enemies and how to conquer them.
  • The three requirements for achievement. If you will do #3 you’ll never have an issue with success ever again.
  • How to stop being a quitter.
  • Your duty, responsibility and obligation. This section will kick mediocrity and average in the back-end!
  • The 4 quadrants of accomplishment. This last section will really take the blinders off. It explains why we get some things done immediately and others we mess around with or make excuses. Hit the right quadrant and you will explode your results.

Without a shadow of a doubt this training will help you gain self-discipline.

Whether you make it to the live training or catch the replay it will be worth it.

Are you in? Are you ready to win?

Join Achieve

Success is NOT an Accident!

p.s. After this session ACHIEVE will be $197. Join now…


Prov 16:26 The appetite of laborers works for them; their hunger drives them on.

What are you hungry for?

What are you working toward?

What ultimate result do you want?

Hunger in the proverb does not mean slight craving or in want of a snack. It’s desperate.

Right now I would really like a donut. I’d like some bacon. Maybe a thick burger. But… I don’t HAVE to have any of those. I’ll survive if I don’t get any of those.

Which means… they are optional.

As long as our goals, desires, dreams are optional we won’t sacrifice. We won’t remain committed. We won’t get up earlier and stay up later.

We will do just enough to ease our stomach growling dreams, but we won’t give it everything we’ve got.

Weigh your dreams/goals…

Like – would be nice to have, but you’re totally ok without them.

Want – you would be disappointed if they didn’t happen.

Need – if you do not accomplish them you will feel like a failure.

Must – they are not optional or negotiable. You will do ANYTHING to accomplish them.

That little exercise will help you take an honest look at your desires. I’m doing the same. And it’s not easy. 🙂

Success is NOT an Accident!


Found: Your Voice!

The Voice on NBC features blind auditions. This is supposedly waaaaaay better than sight auditions where a person’s attractiveness, or lack of, could cause their vocals to take on a different quality to the listener. It’s crazy how the eyes can override the ears like that.

Coaches on sight audition programs like America Idol have been heard to say things like “Uhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Was he singing?” as they wiped their mouths with a napkin after a good looking contestant gave it all they got.

Back to The Voice.

Blake, Usher, Adam and Shakira don’t get to use their eyes in round 1, so their choices are pure. Once they turn around, you immediately find out what they think about the rest of the package. When looks enter the picture, questionable calls can happen at any moment.

Just because someone can sang good doesn’t actually mean they will get to advance. There are two primary reasons good singers go home – even good looking singers…

Number one, they sound like the person who recorded the song they performed for the coaches (and all of America!)

Yep, some of these singers have the audacity to reproduce the exact style and tone of the person selling 1.3 gagilllion downloads of the single. Can you believe it? Wanting to sound like someone who has enough money to buy a country and then fill said country with inhabitant based solely on fan base? Crazy, right?

For example…

Contestant sings “Dude Looks Like a Lady” by Aerosmith. He sounds just like Steven Tyler. On top of that, dude actually looks like a lady. You would think that would be a double whammy of positive outcome. There’s no way this cat can’t win.


Blake, “I don’t know. You really look like a lady and all, which I find attractive and so does Adam, but I couldn’t hear YOU. I just heard Steven Tyler. Maybe if you’d had a scarf draped around you, it would have been better for me. But what do I know? I’ve only won The Voice 3 times and have a bunch of Grammys that are under my butt right now just in case I fight for one of you guys.”

Number two, they don’t sound like anyone. This is sorta unfair. One contestant gets reamed for sounding identical to the original artist, and the next is told they don’t stand out. They don’t have a unique sound.

Moments later they stand in front of the camera fighting tears while exclaiming that it was a honor to be on the show, but deep down they will always remember those words, right?

“You’re trying to sound too much like famous singer who’s mega-rich.”

“You don’t sound distinct. What’s your name again?”

You know what? I think those two reasons are the same reasons we used to go home and stay home instead of releasing our voice.

One the one hand, we clone people. We read an author and feel like we can write that way. We hear a speaker and want to talk that way. It’s natural.

On the other hand, we don’t feel like we have anything special to say. We feel nondescript and monotone.

Listen up!

I’m gonna help you find YOUR voice.

Huh? No. I’m not lying. I’m gonna do it!

Why would I give you such a gift?

Cause I am super nice that’s why! Just ask the three friends I will personally direct you too, and you’ll see it’s true.

Another reason I want you to “find” your voice is because you and the world will be better when you do. You’ll stop whining about not being a snowflake, and you’ll be happy since snowflakes melt in heat and don’t last long in general. You’ll survive every season as YOU.

My gift to you…

5.5.5 Voice Finding Maxims

(For those of you who don’t know what a maxim is, it means fundamental principle. I actually had the word principle right there, but used my handy thesaurus to sound smarter than I am, so you get Maxims!)

1 Your Voice Isn’t Lost – You’re Ignoring It!

You can stop reading after this point if you want. This is really all there is to it.

You’ve used your voice every single day since that first “Mama.”

Every. Single. Day.

You’ve mastered your voice. You know what you think is funny. What you react to. What you love. What you hate. What you find interesting. What you find boring. What you loooooooove to talk about. What you wish would never be mentioned again.

You watch a movie you like and immediately text your friends or, gasp, post it on Facebook for the world. You’re not scared of sharing that. You only lose your voice when you think you’re sharing something important. Then you shift your voice. You try to sound “professional.”


Stop it.

Write. Sing. Speak. – just like you do with your friends. Just like you do every single day.

That’s your real voice. Period.

At least that’s you’re voice right now. If you don’t like it, then proceed…

(Oh, I’d like to take a quick time out and remind you that I said I’d help you find your voice and we already did. Promise delivered! If you would like free training on finding your voice click here.)

2 Forget the Judges

Those blasted judges. Our fate is in their hands! Curses!

If only we can impress them enough to turn their chairs around.

Oh, Wait. They’re really aren’t any judges.

No one waits by their computer to rate your next blog post or Instagram shot. (If they do, they are deranged and need to take some tablets, and you need to block them. I cannot express fully the joy of blocking someone who waits just to trash other folks.)

You THINK everyone stands with rejection stamp in hand.

“Boring post!” Slam! Rejection.

“Boring speaker!” Wham! Rejection.

Lean in here.


Here’s the secret…

There are no judges. Not until you become a NYT bestseller – then everyone who’s never written a book thinks they can boot you. 😉

Until then quit inventing imaginary magistrates.

3 Practice in the Shower

Why the shower? Because you’re alone and hopefully the water is drowning the bad notes, and the echo is glorifying the good ones. However, if you have kids there is no alone space. Ever. Not even the shower. How in the world do they learn how to pick locks at age 2? It’s downright spooky.

Anyway. The shower let’s you let go.

The shower can be literal if you’re singing or an analogy if you’re doing something else.

Here’s an example of a shower if you’re a blogger… get a disposable website. Buy a domain. Set up WordPress. Blog. No one has to see it. Ever.

“But Google will find me somehow and then the world will be reading my stupid.”

Nope. It doesn’t work like that.

That little undisclosed blog will give you the greatest creative gift you could ever wish upon a star to receive…


Permission to write what you want the way you want. Permission to say what you want the way you want. You know you’ve always wanted to. You’re whole life you’ve wanted to be a free bird. (That’s why it’s the most requested song ever, even at Miley Cyrus “concerts.”)

If you’re a little slow, the point is this: You need a place where you get to practice without critique.

4 PRACTICE in the Shower

Ready to be blown away? Ready? Those coaches on The Voice, they can really sing. They can carry it. They can bring it. If you’re from the 90’s, they’re the bomb. If you’re from the 80’s they are for real. If you’re from the 70’s it doesn’t really matter because the dope has erased that decade.

Those judges/coaches can sing.

The insane part? They practice. But not practice. They PRACTICE. They work on their craft. Breathing exercises. Riffs. Rolls. Lip beaters with trills. And not a single one of them can look cool while doing any of those drills. It’s impossible because all singing drills look and sound silly.

One of the exercises my one-day vocal coach has be do sounded like a mix of Ray Ramona and Yogi Bear. I fired him and went out in search of my manhood.

The pros don’t care. They hit it hard with the silly, so they can SING. It’s not just talent on the loose. It’s trained, honed, bleeding vocal chord talent.

Are you willing to put in the hard work to make your voice great?

Answer the question.

Did you answer, “Yes!”?

I’m not surprised. Everyone answers yes. Everyone says they will.

Not to hurt your feelings, but it’s a little fib we all like to tell ourselves. The truth is we’d already be working our tails off if it were a true “Yes.”

To get a great Voice is gonna take more than you’ve ever given in your life. Some days you will radiate glory and the next you will be crumpled on the curb with your head leaned in the street as you dare the oncoming traffic.

Too graphic? Not if you said, “Yes!” You’ve gotta be willing to face it all. Finding your voice is a cinch. Honing your voice requires blood, sweat and tears. Sometimes all three at once.

5 Siiiiiiiiiiing

Stop studying the masters. Stop buying all the stuff that you hope will automatically transform you.

Write. Sing. Speak. Paint. Build. Ride. Climb.

Whatever your voice does, do it.



Do that thing you’re called to do the way you do it.

5.5 Listen Back

We live in advanced times. You can get microscopic wireless ear buds for your listening pleasure. But you go to the studio and the pros have on those earphones the size of the Empire State Building. King Kong could wear those suckers listening to Run DMC, while he’s scaling the building with that woman in his hand.

In today’s advanced age of technology why in the world are artists wearing phonographs?

They do not want to hear anything but the voice. The music. The song.

We loooooove distraction. Squirrel.

Twitter and Facebook stream. Youtube screams. There’s a constant invitation to distraction.

Result? We don’t hear too well. We don’t listen close to our own voice because there are soooo many other voices surrounding us. And they’re loud. Baby at 2 am loud.

Put on your 1956 headphones. Block out the crap. Listen to you. Evaluate. Make adjustments. Tweak. Edit.

5.5.5 Launch

You gotta go public.

You gotta let others hear your voice.

You gotta be ok with the results as you continue to grow.

Everything can’t be great. Oh, I’m sure there’s a book out there saying every moment of your life can change the world, but that’s poppycock.

Heck, the same dude who wrote and rode “Thriller” and “Billie Jean” to #1 also released “Butterflies.” Everything can’t be a hit.

Our voice is designed to be shared not stifled. You’ve probably already mastered stifling. Cut it out. Let it go!

Whew! Well, I think that’s just about enough. You’re probably tired of hearing my voice by now. I know I am.

Success is NOT an Accident!


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Make Every Day Count

We all hear things like… “Make every moment count.” Not to take the weight off us too much, but that’s impossible. However, you can make every day count! Use these 5.5.5. ways…


#1 Live Intentional. Instead of letting monotony drag you through another day – get focused. Notice the people around you and take note of how you can help. Think before you speak. Be present in conversations and interactions.

#2 Read/Listen Positive. Invest 15 minutes early in the day in mind altering thoughts. Positively mind altering. Read books like “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” Read the bible. Listen to Zig Ziglar every morning.

Starting your day this way prepares you for the best possible day. It will shift your attitude early and make you more intentional all day long.

#3 One Encounter. Make someone’s day at least once a day. This is often labeled a “random act of kindness.” That’s nice, but be a bit more aware than that. Plan all day for an encounter.

For me one of the most fun is tipping a server at a restaurant. Sooooo many diners are cheap. When you tip generously, you instantly change the state of a person. You can literally make their entire day.

#4 Attentive Engagement. One of the highest compliments we can pay another is by giving them our full attention. Our world is scattered. Our thoughts are scattered.

Keep eye contact. Listen actively. Ask questions to take the conversation farther.

#5 Passion Injection. Our energy impacts our actions as much as anything. We can do out job or we can DO our job. We can share a kind word or we can SHARE a kind a word. Our passion can mean the difference between apathetic action and authentic action.

#5.5 Dis-Comfort. At least once a day stretch yourself. Take an uncomfortable, positive action. It could be making the call to forgive the person you’ve held a grudge against. Dis-comfort and move forward.

#5.5.5 Valuable Rest. Right before closing your eyes at night review your day. Recall one or two encounters from the day that you feel made a difference. Then knock it out knowing your day counted.



What’s holding you back?




Two letters… GO!

Move. Attempt. Try. Act.

The longer you wait the less time you have to serve others. The longer you wait the more disappointed you become.

Stop waiting for perfect circumstance or the perfect plan. Take a step. And then another. Pretty soon you’re running toward the finish line.

Initiative is War!

“Have a New Kid By Friday”

“Reach All Your Goals In 30 Days”

“Click 3 Buttons And Get Rich Online.”

Fast. Easy. Impossible results.

That’s all we want. And delivered within the next hour thank you.

Some change actually is easy. But most is war. It’s a battle. And there are injuries.

How often do you hear people say…

“Wow, I never knew raising children was so easy? No conflict or drama. It’s so hard to believe they do every single thing I say without sass.”

“Losing those 33 pounds was a cinch. I love tuna from a can. Donuts and pizza? Don’t make me throw up, just give me a handful of almonds any day.”

“I am so glad I started my own business. It’s so much easier than an 8-5 job. I hate getting a dependable paycheck with little risk on my part. It’s so much better to wonder if I am going to get a check at all each month.”

Regardless of the goal, there will be blood.

It will be harder than fantasied. You will want to give up. Many times you will.

Steven Pressfield calls this Resistance.

“Resistance cannot be seen, heard, touched, or smelled. But it can be felt… Resistance is a repelling force. It’s negative. Its aim is to shove us away, distract us, prevent us from doing our work.”

Our lives want, even demand, comfort and immediate gratification.

The sooner we accept that hard work and war are required for impact and achievement – the sooner we’ll hop out of the hammock and take up our swords.

The Power of a Disposable Website


The secret to building your platform? Permission to fail over and over without judgement.

Yep, you have permission to fail over and over again and it won’t even matter.

How can you do that?


Stay with me.

What is holding most people back from DOING?

01 :: Lack of Experience

02 :: Lack of Confidence (which often comes from lack of experience).

How do you get the experience you need?


Yet, almost no one seems to be practicing.

Maybe this sounds familiar…

You want your first website to make money.

You want your first product to make money.

You want your first squeeze page to capture everyone who lands on it.

You want your first sales copy to be magnetic and hypnotizing.

You want your first blog to be SEO ideal and your first post a masterpiece.


When did anyone do it “right” the first time?

Human beings cannot ride a bicycle right the FIRST time. Why in the world would we think we could create the perfect web business or blog right the first time?

You and I need to practice.


Get a disposable website.

“You said that already. What is it?”

Get a “worthless” domain name and hosting account. This will allow you to…

(a) LEARN while PLAYING at the same time.

(b) You’re allowed to MESS UP and it doesn’t even MATTER.

(c) You’re allowed to PRACTICE while gaining confidence and having fun in a ton of different internet business areas.

Here’s what that MIGHT look like….

01 :: Get a Bluehost account if you do not have one.

Look over their different offers. But all you really need for what I am showing you is the lowest level. However, I would go at least one step up just so I could add more domains later.

02 :: When you sign up select “register a new domain” and name it anything you want. You are NOT doing anything but practicing with this account.

03 :: Login. After you’ve ordered and you get the confirmation that your site is up, login to the cpanel. (The instructions will be in the email.)

04 :: Let the Games Begin! Just practice.

a. Set up an email account.

b. Use the “site builders” in the left navigation bar.

c. Scroll to the bottom and click “Fantastico De Luxe.”

-Under blogs click WordPress.
-Install it in a folder called “blog1” or whatever you want to name it.
-Just follow the onscreen instructions.

-Under “Content Management” click Joomla 1.5
-Install it in a folder named “joomla1” or whatever.
-Just follow the instructions onscreen.

You can go through almost everything in there if you want.

Install. Login to the admin area of the installation and just play around. It does not matter.

You get the idea. Just mess around. This is not a site you will ever send anyone to.

With a disposable site you can practice all you want. You can make as many mistakes as you want. You can install and delete as many blogs as you want. You can do whatever you want without anyone seeing it.


Success is NOT an Accident!!!



Potential… one of the most lethal words in the success dictionary.

“Why don’t you live up to your potential.”

“You’ve got so much potential.”

“Don’t limit yourself. Reach your potential. You could do so much more than you’re doing now.”


First of all, those phrases make it sound like, “Hey, you’re worthless now, but you could be valuable!”

Second, even though words of “potential” sound complementary they’re not always. They can make a person feel like they are not living up to some unseen standard. And because it’s based in potential it’s almost impossible to nail down when a person arrives at the destination.

Which is actually impossible anyway.

Potential is Fluid.

For example… take a person who can’t read. What’s his or her potential in today’s world?

Well, you really can’t answer it, can you? We haven’t talked about intelligence, athletic ability, skill set, etc.

Most would say his potential to become a successful CEO would be severely hampered if not impossible. His potential in this area is low.

But what happens if he learns to read? What happens to his chances then?

His potential radically shifts because of a new skill.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t shoot for the stars or dream big. But let’s take some of the pressure off and stop encouraging people with their potential.

If we see something inside someone and we believe they could achieve great things if she applied herself, then let’s HELP her instead of telling her what she could be. The vast majority cannot see in themselves what others see in them. Let’s help them see by helping them take the steps.

Success is NOT an Accident,


Extra Extra


“There are no traffic jams on the extra mile, ” Zig Ziglar.


Current action X _______ = Xtra

It’s more than a little bit more.

It’s a multiple. At times, eXponential.

The xtra mile is double, not just a few more feet.

Here’s the way Jesus put it…

Luke 29 If anyone slaps you on one cheek, offer him the other cheek, too. If someone takes your coat, do not stop him from taking your shirt.

Double the slap.

Double the loss.

Why is xtra so hard? Because it’s about humility. It means we forget about ourselves and give the best to others even if they are not in our circle. Even worse, even if they are rude and oppressive.

We’re probably ok with xtra to people we love, but people we don’t and who don’t love us? Well, that’s just odd, right?


That’s the true spirit of xtra.

Employee or Entrepreneur?

Becoming an online entrepreneur begins in your mind.

Not with a website.

Not with an autoresponder.

It begins in your head. Entrepreneurs think and process differently than the mass population.

The masses want to make cash online. Believe its overnight. And think they have a right to it. Then get upset when it does not happen immediately.

Entrepreneurs want to build businesses. They know it will take time. They know work is involved. The results are their own.

The masses want to sell an ebook (and think that’s all they will ever need to do). The entrepreneur wants to create an empire.

As you can tell, there is different processing happening between these very opposite groups.


Because one group has been trained as an employee. The other as the owner.

One group is used to being TOLD what to do (employee).

While the other is used to DECIDING what to do (owner).

You can follow the herd or set the course – it’s your choice – and it starts in your mind.

Success is NOT an Accident!

Achieve Magnitude

Our next ACHIEVE session is March 3 @ 3 pm CST.

ACHIEVE Magnitude and generate greater significance and impact with your life. Session 3 of 12 from the ACHIEVE series.


The 7 Laws of Magnitude – How to determine and forge life value.

Incidental versus Intentional Immersion – How to best leverage immersion for the greatest results.

Better Decisions and Actions – Magnitude clarifies what we should do, when we should do it and how much to put into it.

Managing T.E.R. – We have a limited amount of time, energy and resources. Discover how to maximize each for influence and impact.


Better Off

Better Off

OK, so you want to change your world.

You’ve decided.

You’re serious.

You want to be able to lay down at night, review the day and say, “Yep, it was good for me to be alive today.”

I know that sounds a little egocentric.

You can’t really go around saying, “You’re lucky I’m alive,” can you?

Well, I wouldn’t go around saying it out loud, but it’s pretty important that you feel important in order to generate the change you’re wanting to see in your world.

In Philippians 1, Paul wrestled between going to be with the Lord or staying here.

I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far; but it is more necessary for you that I remain in the body.

Convinced of this, I know that I will remain, and I will continue with all of you for your progress and joy in the faith, so that through my being with you again your boasting in Christ Jesus will abound on account of me.

Paul says, “You’re better off because of me.” He knew that his life made a difference. (Even though he would have preferred to move on.)

Sit down and think for 15-20 solid minutes.

Write down how others are better off because of you. This isn’t to make you feel superior. It’s to help you see you’re essential.

Make a list of the people you come in contact with the most. Write out beside each name the positive ways you contribute to their lives.

This isn’t the time for false humility. Even George Bailey found out how important he was when he was at an all time low in It’s a Wonderful Life.